Question:
A week or two ago, a guy wrote in wondering what girls are looking for in a future husband. I am wondering now if the guys could write in this time and tell us young women what they are looking for in a future wife? Many times men and women look at life from a different perspective so it would be nice to get their point of view! Thankfully, I have had the privilege to live with a very godly and loving father and brother who have given me much insight on this subject. Men…we want to know so we can aim to be the kind of wife that would strengthen your life and walk with our dear Savior. Thanks. 
Answer:
Take it away, guys.
Primarily a godly Christian girl, who fears the Lord, loves Him, and strives to honor Him in everything she does. And a girl who’s love for the Lord will trickle down on me.
Well, this list could be quite long but I will narrow it down to the three most specific areas I look for.
The first thing that I look for in the life of a young lady is if she is totally sold out for Christ. If the young woman number one goal isn’t to live her life for Christ then in my eyes there is no reason to even become good friends. I she is more worried about other things in her life and God is an afterthought most of the time, why would I think that she would treat me any different after a while? Really though, if you have God in first place in your heart, everything else will just fall into place after that and there wouldn’t be a need for any other “qualifications”.
Secondly, I look to see how the young lady treats those around her, most specifically her father. If she treats her father disrespectfully, I once again ask why would she treat me any different? The authority in her life prior to getting married is her father. If she doesn’t have respect for the authority in her life prior to marriage I doubt she is going to change after marriage.
The third area I look for in a young lady is if she dressing in a way that brings glory to the Lord. Honestly, I really don’t understand why a Christian young woman would want to dress in anything that is even close to the world’s styles today! If they think that by dressing in a revealing way that they are going to get respect from Christian young men, they are wrong! Personally I lose respect for anyone that I see dressed in any way that brings attention to anything except for their countenance. It seems like the mindset among the Christian young women today is that to get as close to the line as they can without crossing it. Why not get as far away from that line as possible and therefore be far away from the world’s view of dress (or lack thereof). I am looking for a young woman that wants to save herself completely for her husband, and that includes the way she dresses.
Thanks Mrs. M! I enjoyed reading what young ladies are looking for in young men, so I was glad for the opportunity to post what I as a young man am looking for in a future wife.
Honestly, I want a girl who will love God and be supportive of my desire to do the same. The biggest thing, honestly, for me is support with love and kindness, but willing to say what needs to be said when I’m not being kind.
Wow! Where to start?
No, I’m joking. I have struggled with this exact question in the past, but after living life for at least a few years (lol), I’ve thought about it in a little more depth. One of the first things I would look for in a future wife is a sweet attitude. A sweet attitude conveys several things about a young lady: it communicates that she is friendly; it communicates that she has a positive perspective on most of “life”; and it communicates that she is concerned, on some level, about who she is in relation to God’s Word. I look for a girl who is flexible – someone who isn’t really freaked out by change. I value a girl who is friendly – one who communicates to others that she cares for them. I look for a girl who is able to dress tastefully and beautifully, without wearing too much make up or accessories; but, I also look for a girl who is not afraid to get her “hands dirty” – whether physically or theoretically. I look for a girl who isn’t uncomfortable talking with and interacting with people who might be less privileged than she is – a girl who loves people and communicates Jesus’ love for people. I look for a girl that has a love – a deep-seated desire – for God’s Word. This kind of young lady seeks and desires to become more like Jesus Christ. I look for a girl that is willing to love me for whom I am now, and who is excited about the place I’ve come from – the progress I’ve made. I look for a girl who is REAL. I have seen so many Christian young ladies who are one thing around one group of people, and an entirely different person when they are around another group. That’s so fake – and it’s obvious. I already mentioned it before, but I look for a girl who dresses well. There is SO much emphasis on modesty in “fundamentalism” without any real knowledge of what that actually means. I don’t claim to know what modesty really means, but I know a certain young lady 
who is modest and tasteful – and she looks gorgeous!!!! The things she wears (clothes, accessories, etc.) serve to only complement what she really looks like – and she looks stunning. To be very honest, a girl’s eyes and hair are one of the first things I notice (lol…or they are one of the first things I did notice on a certain young lady). As far as the physical appearance goes, a girl who wears a lot of makeup (especially eye shadow, foundation, blush, and the like) appears as though she isn’t satisfied with the way that God created her! God has a plan for that young lady, and he most likely has a wonderful young man reserved for her, but she becomes so much less attractive when she isn’t satisfied with how she actually looks! That’s a measure of insecurity that is dangerous. I also look for a young lady that has a solid, loving, respectful relationship with her father. If she talks badly or negatively about her father, then that’s a good indication of how she might treat you in the future after 6 or 7 years of marriage. Her relationship with her family is an excellent idea of how she will treat your own family and your family as a couple, as the Lord allows you to have children.
So, I believe that these are the type of qualities that I look for (am looking for) in the young lady that I would date and am currently dating.
Honestly, I am looking for a woman – and yes there is a difference between a woman and a girl.
Girls: life is a popularity contest, they are constantly backstabbing each other, arguing, and holding grudges. Also, complaining! For example: I can’t stand hearing complaints about having to wear skirts from so many girls on campus.
Women: respect authority in their lives, even when they do have differing opinions. You can respect someone while still disagreeing. They are helpful and loving to others, even to those they don’t know. Women don’t ignore people around them who are in need and are generous both with finances and with their time. Real woman treat people like they would want to be treated.